I have to admit, writing this blog isn’t as easy as I thought it would be. This whole being-honest-and-airing-my-parenting-dirty-laundry thing? It’s downright intimidating. In part because of my fiction-writing background, I suspect. I think a lot about voice, tone, and what I’m trying to achieve...and then I procrastinate like there’s no tomorrow. *sigh*
In an attempt to remove the guessing-game aspect (Did I say that right? Do I sound too upbeat? Too negative? Did I strike the right balance?), here’s what I want to do: I’m going to tell you what it is I’m trying to achieve here, and what I absolutely don’t want to happen...and then I want you to be as honest with me as I’m trying to be with you. If I fall down on any of my goals, call me on it (either here in a comment, or via the contact page if you’d prefer to keep it private). You’ll be helping me enormously, and in the long run, that means I can better help you, too. Sound fair?
So here’s my list of objectives:
Shared experience. Because my daughter is coming up on 23 years old, I figure I’m further ahead in this parenting thing than many of you reading this. I know how good it felt to realize I wasn’t alone in the challenges I faced, and I’m hoping I can provide that same reassurance to others.
Honesty. While I love my daughter to death, and I wouldn’t change her for the world, I don’t want to sugar-coat everything and make it look like it was easy to get to where we are. It wasn’t. A lot of days were tough. Some days are still tough.
Hope. In the same vein, I don’t want to make it sound like our journey has been horrific, either. Tough, yes, but far from awful. Well...apart from certain periods...(See? That’s me being honest. ;) ) We’ve met and overcome some pretty significant challenges, we continue to do so, and overall, I think we’ve remained pretty optimistic. I’d like to share that optimism with you, too.
No whining. Some of the stories will be about some pretty dark times we’ve had. I don’t want to sound like I’m pulling the ‘poor little me’ card, and I don’t want anyone to think I’m looking for sympathy, because that's not what this is about. Refer to points one and two above. ;)
Inspiration. I’m a bit of a nonconformist by nature (my husband has many stories he can share on that topic), and so much of our journey with Mika didn’t follow the expected path. I relied heavily on my own instincts, did a crap-ton of research, and cobbled together solutions that worked for Mika...and for us. So if you’re looking for a little boost of confidence to get you moving on a similar path for your child, I’m really, really hoping I can provide that.
And that’s it. Shared experience, hope, honesty, and inspiration. Those are the promises I’d like to make to you, and the ones I’d like to deliver on. If you ever feel that I’m missing the mark, please, please let me know!
Oh, and if you have any questions you’d like to ask or topics you’d like me to write about, let me know those, too. I’m always open to inspiration myself. ;)
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